Well okay here I am again in my last week in NYC.
I say again, because I’ve left New York before – in September 2003 when I left to go to graduate school in Ivrea, Italy. In 2003 I was a freelance designer working for a startup, making mobile websites for magazines. I was training for a half-ironman, and had recently ended an on/off again relationship for (what seemed to be) the last time. I was ready to leave, and I wasn’t planning to come back. I wanted a different kind of life that didn’t feel like a treadmill, where I wasn’t always running in place to keep up with the pace around me. That was easy to say since I was heading into a two-year program that was subsidizing me to be there. I had no plans to come back, but I didn’t really need to think beyond the program itself at the time. So I moved to Italy, and then to England, and then flash forward 3 years (and a slew of unrelated events), I found myself back in NYC.
This time it feels a bit different. This move is more self-motivated, as there’s no program I’m going to or promise of a degree; and it’s more open ended — there’s no time frame or end date in sight. For those reasons on most days it feels a lot more abstract: “yeah, I’m moving to SF — more time outside” and “well, I started a company and that’s where it is” are typical thoughts that run through my head. When it starts to feel real though, it’s a fair amount scarier. Mostly because this time it’s a more solitary and adult thing — it’s my decision, I have only myself to count on to make it work, and if for some reason it isn’t everything I hope it will be it’s just me on the other end who will have to figure out what’s next. In Italy I had a school and a program to blame everything on. This time, it’s just me.
I’ve moved around quite a bit over the past 10 years. Hell, I’ve spent more of this decade in Europe than I have in the US. But as it turns out moving across the country is a bigger deal than moving across the Ocean. The common assumption is that I’ll settle down in San Francisco and never come back east. I once thought I was allergic to California, and was told, “it’s okay Jenn, you don’t have to die here” the last time I considered SF (in 2005). So the thought of never coming back, while it suggests a life that definitely works — at least well enough to keep me out there — is almost as scary as the idea that it doesn’t work out. I’m an east coast girl — I always assume that wherever I go there’s a sticker on me that says “If lost and found, please return to Philadelphia.” The whole one-way ticket west thing is more intimidating than any trip to Europe, because there’s no built in expiration or return ticket.
So yeah, this time I’m not making any promises. I’m moving to San Francisco, and we’ll see where I take it from there.